The more and more I think about it, the more and more I realize. Life will be as miserable or wonderful as you are willing to make it.
I understand society sometimes destroys peoples’ opportunities. People and entire communities are marginalized and shoved under the rug, they are colonized or brainwashed, they are man-handled and manipulated. This is a fact of life. My urgency is that in most cases, we put ourselves into our out of misery with our own thoughts!
A determined pessimist will take negativity out of the most blessed situations. She will cultivate negativity, even when she is given full opportunity and positivity. A determined opportunist or optimist will see every situation as an opportunity for saying thanks, appreciating, or seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
You are your own coach, guide, and counsellor. You are the one who has control over your mind and your thoughts. My Guru says, “conquer your mind, and you will conquer the world” (-Guru Nanak). I really strongly believe in this. Lately, when I feel negativity seeping through the wood panes of my emotional house, I simply say “shukar hai” - “shukar” means thankfulness, gratitude, and “hai” means, “there is”. This phrase essentially means, I am thankful/I have gratitude. You can say this in every moment, for there is ALWAYS something to be appreciative for.
0 Jiva [captive Soul somewhere in time]! Give up all blind adherences and beliefs, concentrate within and seek the Supreme Being there, adopting Him alone as your goal. Do ponder over what I say and see for yourself with eyes wide open that there is none in this world whom you can call your own. You should adopt the Supreme Being alone as your prop and support.
I have so much. I lack nothing. My life lacks nothing, my house lacks nothing, my fridge lacks nothing, my closet lacks nothing, my drawers lack nothing, the taps in my house are always oozing with clean water, I have a back yard with grass, a cell phone, a laptop, a million soaps in my shower, access to a vehicle and a license and citizenship in a country where I feel safe driving around at night, I am in school and I am working and I am independent and free. I don’t suffer from any serious mental or physical ailments. I have so many people around me, and I am sure I could find at least one who has been through something comparable to what I’ve been through. So many people love me and care about me and I have unlimited access to them (I’m the one who doesn’t reach out - why should I blame Divinity). I know what relaxes me and I have the freedom to engage in it. I have so many places I could go. So many things I could do. The temperature in my room is perfect, as are the clothes on my back.
Seriously. I have been given so much. And I still find things to complain about. WHY?! Seriously, life is WAY more meaningful when you filter out negativity and just SMILE <3, and I’m NOT being cheesy. Even in the midst of death, hardship, heartbreak, and failure, there is still something to say thanks for.
You meet someone, and you just click. You have the same ideas about life. You don’t even have to finish your sentences, because the person already knows what you mean.